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The Mariposa Trust provides services and support for anyone affected by baby loss at any stage of pregnancy, at birth or in infancy (whether recent or historic), infertility, pregnancy after loss, and more.

To achieve this the trust's aims are as follows:

The Mariposa Trust

It has six main divisions, Saying Goodbye which provides Baby Loss Remembrance Services and Support, and five other support divisions: GrowingYou, Holding Hope, Waiting for You, Love in Every Tear and So Cherished.

The Trust is the Charity and Company limited by Guarantee. It oversees and coordinates all UK and International operations and initiatives.

Saying Goodbye

SG is the primary division of the charity and provides support for anyone who suffers baby loss, at any stage of pregnancy, at birth or in infancy, whether the loss be recent or historic.

In addition to supporting tens of thousands of people each week, it runs the first National and International Remembrance Services for anyone who has lost a child.

Visit the Saying Goodbye Site

Support Divisions

  • GrowingYou is a specialist division, offering support to anyone who is pregnant following baby loss.
  • Holding Hope provides support for people through fertility treatment.
  • Waiting for You provides support for people through adoption.
  • Love in Every Tear supports people supporting others through loss.
  • So Cherished supports families who have received a terminal or life altering diagnosis over over their child.

Global... Baby loss knows no bounds, and can affect anyone, anywhere!

Baby loss is a global issue with around 30,000,000 miscarriages each year, 2.6 million still births and 5.495 million neo-natal and early years losses. The Mariposa Trust is leading the way in providing better support for anyone going through loss, and in increasing awareness of the size and scale of the issue.

The Support Available from The Mariposa Trust

When someone is going through loss, they can feel a wide range of emotions from anger to blame to deep guilt, and of course an overwhelming sense of grief.

How and when a person feels able to work through the grief is completely down to each individual, but as a charity, we want to ensure that at whatever point that is, we can provide a comprehensive support service to them.

The baby loss support we offer is therefore split into two distinct areas. The first is through Saying Goodbye, which is supporting anyone following child loss. The second support division GrowingYou, offers support for people who are going through subsequent pregnancies following loss.

The other two divisions offer support to people who are trying to start their families, whether that be Holding Hope that helps people that are going through fertility treatment, or Waiting for You that supports people through the adoption process.

Support from Saying Goodbye

When you go through the loss of a baby, whether during pregnancy, at birth or in infancy, time stands still. The rest of the world carries on, whilst for you that moment brings grief, trauma and devastation.

Whether the loss has been recent, or decades ago, the team at Saying Goodbye are ready and waiting to help discuss your situation, and try to help guide you to a place of comfort and peace.

The team currently operate online, and are able to guide you to remembrance services and support services, local to you, as well as being able to try to link you with befrienders or counsellors, if required.

Visit the Saying Goodbye Website

Support from GrowingYou

For anyone who has lost a baby, be it during pregnancy, at birth or in infancy, the prospect, or reality of going through another pregnancy, can be a very daunting and scary experience.

For many, they have questions, concerns and fears, often tied up in grief from a past loss or from past losses.

GrowingYou is all about empowering you with the right information and advice, and sharing good news stories, thus helping you enjoy the new pregnancy. The team have access to befrienders and counsellors if you feel these would be of help to you.

The History of The Mariposa Trust

The Mariposa Trust (also known as Saying Goodbye) is a Charity that was officially established in 2013, however the work of the trust started in 2012.

It has been set-up to oversee and steer various projects and divisions including Saying Goodbye, GrowingYou, Holding Hope, Waiting for You, Love in Every Tear and So Cherished.

The primary function of the charity is to support anyone who have been affected by the loss of a child at any stage of pregnancy, at birth or in infancy. This is provided through remembrance services at Cathedrals and Minsters, (100 by the end of 2017), and via a support service, which reaches in excess of 50,000 people each week globally.

Additionally the trust is working with Government and Health Professionals to improve the care and support of people pre, during and post baby loss.

The Trust is led by the founders Zoe and Andy Clark-Coates, who are Trustee/Directors, and they are supported by a wonderful set of trustees and an international team, who assist in coordinating the work of the charity across the UK and worldwide.

Saying Goodbye was originally established as a not-for-profit division of CCEM (the events business run by Zoe and Andy), but as it grew, it has become a charity in it's own right. CCEM continue to be involved in the charities work, organising all of the services and events for the charity.

Zoe Clark-Coates

Founder, Trustee and Director of the Trust. Wife to Andy, Mother to two wonderful Daughters and five lost babies. Author of 'Saying Goodbye', Business Leader, Entrepreneur and Campaigner for better care and support for anyone going through baby loss.

Andy Clark-Coates

As with Zoe, but exchange wife with husband, exchange Andy with Zoe and exchange mother with father... and that should make sense!

Support & Donate

If you are thinking of donating to The Mariposa Trust, firstly may we thank you. We would like to show you a number of easy ways in which you can personally or corporately give to the organisation, and even how you can leave a legacy, by including the trust in your will.

Online Donations

The easiest way to donate to the Mariposa Trust online is by using JustGiving, which allow you to securely donate using a debit or credit card.

Donate Online via JustGiving

Regular Donations

If you are able to consider a regular donation, this will help us to strategically plan our work, as we will know what we will be receiving each month.

Postal Donations

You can donate in the traditional way, by posting a cheque made payable to The Mariposa Trust through to the main trust address.

Legacy Giving

At the saddest of times, when a life is lost, you could help to change the future by donating to the Mariposa trust via your will. Find out more about Leaving a Legacy (PDF 85kb).

Corporate Giving

Whether you are a company who want to donate financially to The Mariposa Trust, donate in-kind services or want to set up a payroll giving scheme.

A Message from the Founders

"Can you help us today? The Mariposa Trust relies on donations from people like you, to support it's work in the UK and worldwide. Our plan is simple; to ensure everyone who goes through baby loss has the right care and support pre, during and post loss.

This is a big task, and the remembrance services and support service are only a part of what we will be rolling out over the coming months, to make this plan a reality. To enable all of the plans to be achieved, will need further finance and support in kind, so please donate today, and help us acknowledge and remember the lives lost and cut short, and support those who are grieving."

Become an Official Fundraiser

this is your chance to do something big, something worthwhile, something that will make a difference. Fundraising is how we as an organisation survive. It provides the finance that allows us to run services, provide support and make a difference in people's lives. It generates the income to produce resources and get those into hospitals, doctors surgeries and clinics and allows us to push government and the NHS to improve baby loss support. The task is huge, and the need for funds essential, so the more fundraisers we have, the more we do.

We are currently recruiting 50 regional Fundraising Coordinators, to rally teams of people to hold fundraising events. It is a voluntary role (but just so you know it can be done around a full time job!). So if you have decided that this year you want to make a massive difference, to hundreds of thousands of people - This is the team for you - look no further, put your drink down and contact us right now!!!

If it scares you, if it feels like it may take you out of your comfort zone, that's awesome - how will you ever know what you can achieve until you try!

We can only continue to do what we do by raising funds, so show the world how much you appreciate SG and join the team (We are a lovely bunch - honest!) We need British and American team members!

If you want to chat about the role, PLEASE contact Zoe via a message on the Facebook Fundraising page or email us.

Do Something Special!

Changing the taboo nature of child loss is key for the Mariposa Trust, as well as improving the standard of care and support for anyone who loses a baby, but we can't do it alone... we need your help!

The trust needs your support in lots of ways, and if you feel you can help please get in touch.

Whether you can simply tell your GP Surgery about the support we offer and any services in your area, distribute leaflets and posters about the Saying Goodbye services, or would consider joining our fundraising team, and help raise funds to support the work of the trust... every little helps.

If you think that throwing yourself out of a plane at 12,000ft (with a parachute) is your sort of thing, then why not take part in 'Jump for Love', a national Skydiving project run by the Mariposa Trust.

This gives you the chance to raise funds for the charity, while taking part in what many people have described as a life changing experience. You can find out more at